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Have you ever read a parenting book and thought: "My child doesn't fit this description," or "None of these techniques seem to work." or "Why is my child so high maintenance?" You may unknowingly have an Ephraim's Child.

What is an Ephraim's Child? Like those of the Biblical tribe of Ephraim, an Ephraim's Child has great determination, energy, and a headstrong will. Ephraim's Children are also often high maintenance, emotional, controlling, and aggravating. What other sources don't tell you is that these children are a special and covenant people. As Hyrum G. Smith declared, "'today' is the day of Ephraim." These are the children of the final days when strength of character will be so crucial.

This book examines nine common characteristics, with examples and real-life stories, to explain how each trait contributes to the challenge of raising an Ephraim's Child. Parents can understand and work with these temperamental traits and then see how each is actually a strength in need of refinement. The scriptures and words of modern prophets are used extensively along with secular sources of wisdom to demonstrate how these qualities can be valuable tools in the Lord's hand. Ephraim's Children can be valiant in building the kingdom of God because of their characteristics, not despite them.

Table of Contents

Preface, ix


1. Why ANOTHER Parenting Book?, 1

2. What IS an Ephraim's Child?, 5
What's in a name?, 5
Everyday Names, 12

3. Do You Have an Ephraim's Child?, 15
Temperament, 17
Characteristics of the Ephraim's Child, 19
The Extrovert/Introvert, 26
The Big Picture, 29

4. Intensity, 31
Handling the "Flip Out", 34
Now What?, 37
About Competition, 40
Intense Examples, 41
Refining Intensity into Zeal, 42

5. Persistence, 47
Turning Stubborn into Steadfast, 50
Dealing with Persistence, 52
Persistent Parents, 61
We Need Persistence, 61

6. Adaptability, 64
Routine, 65
If Your Child Has an Inconsistent Nature, 67
Forewarning, 68
Give Your Child the Time He Needs, 70
Find a Stopping Point, 71
Limit the Number of Transitions, 72
Changing Plans, 74
The Importance of Adaptability, 75
Learning When to Adapt, 79
Recognize the Successes, 80

7. Awareness, 82
Awareness or Distractibility?, 85
Getting Your Child's Attention, 87
Giving Effective Directions, 88
Components of Effective Directions, 91
Applying Awareness, 92
Other-Awareness, 93
It's Great to Be Aware, 94

8. Sensitivity, 96
Monitor and Adjust, 99
Monitor Emotional Stimulation, 102
Control Media, 105
Blessed Sleep, 106
Getting Dressed, 108
Refining Sensitivity to Charity, 112

9. Activity, 116
Activity vs. Hyperactivity, 118
How Your Child Learns, 119
Expect and Plan for Energy, 122
Winding Up, 124
When High Activity Is the Byproduct of Another Temperamental Trait, 125
Active from the Beginning, 126
Channeling High Activity, 127
Enjoy Activity, 129

10. Intelligence, 131
School, 133
Multiple Intelligences, 135
Emotional Intelligence, 138
Being an Emotional Coach, 140
Using the Heart to Understand, 144
"Saving Intelligence", 145

11. Control, 149
Routine, 151
Give Choices, 151
Power Struggles, 152
Expanding Bossiness into Leadership, 156
Leading As Jesus Led, 158

12. Independence, 164
Dependence, 166
Independence, 167
Interdependence, 170

13. Disciplining the Ephraim's Child, 174
Obedience, 174
The Challenge of Disciplining the Ephraim's Child, 177
Discipline vs. Punishment, 179
Reward the Good, 180
Be Clear, 182
Be Consistent, 183
Be Firm, 185
Using Discipline to Teach--Natural Consequences, 189
Consequences Work Best When . . . , 191
Using Consequences Takes More Effort, 193

14. When You Don't Like Your Ephraim's Child, 195
What You May Feel, 196
Your Child Is Not "Out to Get You", 198
Work with Temperament, 198
Use Correct Tools, 199
Our Children Help Raise Us Too, 199
Don't Get Too Busy, 200
Do the Best You Can, 200
If the Savior Were Babysitting, 201
Others Think You Have a Brat, 202
The Medication Concern, 206
Stay Positive, 209

15. The Special Occasion Nightmare, 210
Be Realistic, 211
Work with Others, 212
Prepare Your Child, 213
Beware of Crowds, 215
Travel Plans, 215
Essential Sleep, 217
The Gift Trap, 217
After the Occasion, 220

16. Grandparenting the Ephraim's Child, 222
Love Them Unconditionally, 223
Connect the Generations, 224
Provide Support for the Parents, 226
Be a Strong Spiritual Guide, 228

17. Be Equal to the Task, 230
Raise the Bar, 230
Teach Truth, 233
Enjoy Your Ephraim's Child, 236

Endnotes, 238
Bibliography, 252
Appendix, 257
Recommended Additional Resources, 261
About the Authors, 262

Order Information

Title:

Parenting the Ephraim's Child: Characteristics, Capabilities, and Challenges of Children Who Are
Intensely MORE

Authors:

Deborah Talmadge and Jaime Theler

Retail Price:

$16.98

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ISBN:

0-88290-773-5

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7735

Pages:

280

Size:

6" x 9"

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Paperback