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     When you're struggling for success in your parenting procedures, How to Raise Kids Without Climbing the Walls is the book you need! You'll learn new strategies and discover workable tools you can implement immediately. 

By putting this book's valuable principles into effect, you'll be able to:
     1. Communicate with children of all ages. 
     2. Analyze their behavior problems effectively.
     3. Discern between misbehaviors that need correction and actions that should be ignored or tolerated.
     4. Categorize misbehaviors so you'll know what correcting strategies to use. 
     5. Recognize when your kids lack knowledge and need to be taught. 
     6. Motivate youngsters who are discouraged or bored.
     7. Get children to stop being destructive of property, processes and people.
     8. Deal with drugs and inappropriate sexual behavior.
     9. Be an effective single parent, noncustodial parent, or stepparent. 
     10. Raise your children to be responsible, not just responsive. 

According to Dr. Brady, "When you need to correct your children's behavior, you want help you really can use. You want direction and solutions. How to Raise Kids Without Climbing the Walls  provides the techniques you need! With its common-sense principles, you'll be able to analyze children's behavioral problems, implement strategies for eliminating negatives, encourage positive behavior, and teach new behaviors when appropriate. All this can take place within a loving, caring, home environment. Concerted effort is involved, but if you're a responsible parent, it will be the most enjoyable work you'll ever do." 

Table of Contents

Preface, 11

Who are the People that Should Read this Book?, 12

How to Use this Book, 12

1--An Attltude and Philosophy that Works with Children, 14
Intentions, 15
Joey and the School Play, 15
Negative Intentions, 17
Perceptions, 18
Jenny and the Tiger, I9
Communicating with Children, 20
Four Questions that Open Lines of Communication, 21
What was Good About What You Did?, 22
How Will You Do it Differently Next Time?, 23
What Can I Do to Help?, 23
May I Make a Suggestion?, 24
The Importance of Trust, 25
Showing an Increase in Love, 26
Parental Power and Child-rearing, 27
Freedom of Choice, 27
Making Effective Corrections, 29
Reverse the Order of the Messages, 31
Criticism Places Distance Between Parents and Children, 31
Make Your Love Sincere, 32

2--What's the ProbIem?, 33
An Effective Tool that Will Help, 34
What's the Problem?, 36
Is it Important?, 37
Why is it Important that My Child Do What I Want?, 37
If Nothing is Done about the Problem, What Will Happen?, 37
Potty Training, 38
Is My Child's Behavior Problem Any Different than that of Most Children His Age?, 39
Is the Behavior a Desirable One?, 40
Would I Be Happier with My Child if He Quit Doing It, or Would I Like to See Him Do it Better?, 40
Is it Potentially Constructive?, 41
Potentially Constructive Misbehaviors, 41
Destructive Misbehaviors, 44

3--Eliminating Undesirable Behavior, 48
How is it Rewarded, 50
Do I Reward My Children with Attention, Even if it's Adverse, When They Misbehave?, 51
Remove the Payoff, 51
Additional Rewards for Misbehavior, 53
Natural and Logical Consequences, 54
A Magic Question that Works, 56
Use of Timeout, 57
Essential Keys to the Use of Timeout, 58
Rewarding Other Desirable Behaviors, 60
Does the Misbehavior Persist?, 61
Staying with it and Being Consistent, 62
The Importance of Rules, 63
A Sad and Happy Story About Ricky, 64
Paying the Price and Communicating, 66

4--Encouraging Desirable Behavior, 68
Is There a Lack of Skill?, 70
Was it Done in the Past?, 71
Providing Practice and Rewards, 73
Provide Feedback and Reward, 74

5--Overcoming a Lack of Motivation, 76
Is Compliance Punishing?, 78
Remove the Punishment, 80
Is Noncompliance Rewarding?, 81
Does the Behavior Make a Difference?, 86
Consequences and Rewards, 88
Do Obstacles Get in the Way?, 88
Other Desirable Behaviors, 89

6--Dealing with Sex as Children Mature, 91
The Case for Abstinence, 92
Educating Yourself as a Parent to Teach Your Children, 93
Adverse Psychological Effects of Premarital Sex, 94
A Better Strategy for Getting Children to Abstain, 98
Factors that Influence Abstinence, 98
What Do You Do if Your Children are Already Sexually Active?, 101
It Requires an Active Role to Be a Parent, 104

7--Dealing with Drugs, 106
The Problem, 106
Stages of Drug Usage, 108
Recognizing the Stages of Drug Usage, 113
As a Parent, What Should I Do?, 117

8--Is Your Spouse a Dictator or a Lazy Parent, 119
A Spouse that's Too Strict, 119
Divorce Might Be the Only Answer When a Family Dictator Refuses to Change, 122
If You Live with a Dictator, What Can You Do to Avoid Divorce?, 123
What to Do about the Lazy or Over-lenient Parenting Partner, 125
The Work-and-play Fallacy, 126
What to Do if You're Married to a Lazy Spouse, 127
Is it Ever Really Right to Get a Divorce?, 129

9--Raising Children as a Single Parent, 131
Traps that Single Parents Commonly Fall into, 132
The Trap of Being Too Strict, 133
A Life for Yourself, 133

10--Becoming an Effective Stepparent, 137
Taking an Active Role, 138
The Part Love Plays for a Stepparent, 139
Special Problems in Reconstituted Families, 140
Stepparenting is Rewarding, 143

11--Effective Noncustodial Parenting, 144
Remaining Close, 145
Visitation with Your Children, 145
Games Parents Shouldn't Play, 146

12--Examples and Reference Questions, 150
When Problems Come Up, 151
Reference Questions, 153

13--Index and List of Behavior Problems, 158

Index, 161

--WORKBOOK FOR PARENTS AND TEACHERS--
Table of Contents for Workbook, 167
About the Author, 201

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